how to have a calm christmas

On the 12th day of Christmas my true love said to me…

…What a calm and lovely Christmas that was!


Here at Discover Your Bounce we are the masters of zen, getting sh*t done and making sure we enjoy our time spent on earth.


Christmas is a celebration with family and/or friends. Yet, some of us spend more time running around after everyone else and putting out fires (both literal and metaphorical) for the entire day. So here at Team Bounce we have created a fool-proof way for a great Christmas!

On the first day of Christmas, my true love gave to me…

…a house filled with people!

Friends and family have gathered to celebrate and as crowded as it may seem, appreciate their company.

Our lives are so busy it’s rare that we actually get a moment spend with our loved ones. If you’re lucky enough to have them there, enjoy their company. Quite often Christmas can become more focused on the gifts and the food. That is only one part of it, the sentiment still stands. It’s a time for loved ones and time off!

On the second day of Christmas, my true love gave to me…

…no squabbles!

Families and friends. All so individual, all sharing their different viewpoints. Highlight problem topics, be it family or friend’s gossip, politics or the amount of time granny talks about that noisy neighbour. As soon as a topic arises that causes squabbles because there are too many opinions being thrown around, put an end to it.

Change the subject back to something safe, like the weather, gardening and terrible Christmas cracker jokes.

On the third day of Christmas, my true love gave to me…

…sleeping in!

Fat chance if you have young children we hear you say.

The point we’re making here is to ensure you have a little “me” time. Get some things ready the night before and get up half an hour earlier than the kids just to sit and enjoy a cuppa or run a bath while everyone still sleeps.

If you have grown up kids then you give yourself a lie in and just generally start the morning on a slow note. The rest of the day will be hectic enough as is.

On the fourth day of Christmas, my true love gave to me…


Carrying on the theme from the third point, use different points of the day to practice some mindfulness. Be it through washing up, the preparation of the meal or the tasty meal itself. Focus your mind on the activity and the flavours and try to leave yourself enough time that you don’t have to make a mad rush to get everything cooked in time.

calm christmasOn the fifth day of Christmas, my true love gave to me…

…a helping hand!

You’re not alone! Delegate some of the tasks. Get all those family members filling up the house involved. Two or three of you in the kitchen, depending on how big it is. One tidying the living areas, one supplying the tea or booze and someone else keeping the fire stocked or the kids entertained.

Make it a family effort and it won’t be a stressful day, it will be a day of co-operation and laughter.


On the sixth day of Christmas, my true love gave to me…


We don’t always realise we don’t have to see absolutely everybody in one day. Use the whole of December if you need it to make the rounds. How can you split the time so you have more time with each person/people? Perhaps it’s just you and the kids on Christmas day, then Boxing day you visit the in-laws, then nan & grandad until finally, you get around to friends on the 27th.

Whichever way you do it, make it quality time together rather than a rushed visit.


On the seventh day of Christmas, my true love gave to me…

…family traditions!

A tradition is “the transmission of customs or beliefs from generation to generation or the fact of being passed on in this way.”

If it’s just the 4 of you, do you really need to spend all day cooking a turkey? It’s your dinner, so pick whatever you like best!

New traditions can be made at any time. We just have to look at our own history to see that there is no one way you celebrate any occasion.

Here are 8 forgotten Christmas traditions of the UK

Look at how you structure your day, the traditions you keep and ask yourself whether they suit you. Do you see value in them or are you giving yourself unnecessary work?

On the eighth day of Christmas, my true love gave to me…

…a babysitter!

Have you ever thought about getting someone a thoughtful gift they can cash in later in the year? The joy of giving and receiving presents is all too often not at the right time. Rather than making it a material gift, give the gift of time to go out on a holiday, a day trip or offer your babysitting services.

On the ninth day of Christmas, my true love gave to me…

…goodies from my local area

The idea is to have less impact on the environment by shopping local, ethical gifts. If you have a lot of people to buy for, why not put together a hamper for an entire family made of local goodies? Put your father in law’s favourite cheese and chutney in, your mother’s favourite chocolates and some dog treats for their pooches in a nice box. It’s good for the environment and something they can enjoy munching through in the months that follow!

On the tenth day of Christmas, my true love gave to me…


…some walking boots!

You don’t actually have to buy everyone boots. To avoid that feeling of being overfull and sluggish and to let the children burn off some energy, go for an after-dinner walk with the family. The fresh air and exercise will help you stay calm and every city has at least one park!



On the eleventh day of Christmas, my true love gave to me…

…breathing techniques!

Did someone just say something rude? Did the gravy not work out the way you wanted it to?

Breathe through it with the square breathing technique.

Square breathing is when you breathe in for the count of 6, hold the in-breath for 6, out for 6 and hold the out-breath for 6. You may not be able to get to six right away, so increase the number as you repeat this exercise.

Take five and don’t let yourself become overwhelmed.

On the twelfth day of Christmas, my true love gave to me…


Don’t sweat the small stuff or strive for absolute perfection. With a busy day, lots of people and activities going on, we need to learn to let the little things go. Appreciate the people and the good times.





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About The Author

Alexandra Stumpp

A 2019 graduate of German from the University of Bristol, Alex is the Events and Marketing Assistant for Discover Your Bounce. She joined the team in March 2019 as an Intern and is now a full-time employee. Her expertise is in the study of cultures and languages. Being half Swiss and through her studies she speaks fluent German.